How do I set boundaries without feeling like a terrible person?

Boundaries, Codependency, and People Pleasing

Do you find yourself constantly struggling with setting boundaries, feeling caught up in codependent patterns, or finding it challenging to break free from the cycle of people-pleasing? In this episode, we navigate the delicate terrain of personal boundaries, codependency, and the art of putting oneself first.

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Today’s questions

• What factors contribute to the development of codependency and difficulties in setting boundaries? Are there early indicators, such as childhood experiences or attachment styles, that may lead someone down this path?

• Is indecisiveness a symptom of people pleasing? What about perfectionism?

• What is self-esteem? Where does self-esteem come from?

• Why do people pleasers want to give, but then experience resentment from giving “too much”? Is the desire to please genuine?

• How do individuals who have been entangled in codependent dynamics recognize and break free from these patterns? 

• What are the common behavior patterns that manifest in people struggling with codependency?

• What does it look like to work with a therapist on your boundaries?

• How and when do you compromise while staying true to your needs?

• How can you start setting boundaries? Is it worth saying no just to practice saying no?

• What if the people in your life don’t respond well to your boundaries?

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