Resentment, Anger, and Jealousy in a Relationship
Resentment is one of the quietest relationship killers, and one of the most common. In this episode, I explore conflict, communication, and the feelings that silently build over time with Jayda (your Sex Positive Asian Auntie) and Adam Maurer, a sex-positive relationship therapist. From contempt and emotional labor to whether one partner can really meet all your needs, I was definitely asking for myself on this one.
Today's Questions
- How do you notice when resentment is starting to show up in a relationship?
- Is it possible to overcome resentment?
- How and when can you address issues constructively without feeling "naggy"?
- How does contempt show up in a relationship, and what can we do about it?
- How can you step back when arguments start to turn sideways?
- How can you address perceived imbalance in a relationship? How does emotional labor factor in?
- What can you do when you're working on yourself but the people in your life aren't meeting you there?
- How do you grow together, and how do you handle growing apart?
- How do you handle jealousy and overcome relationship insecurities?
- Can we really expect "everything" from one partner? How can we outsource our emotional needs?
- Why do we place romantic relationships on a pedestal and de-prioritize friendships?
Our Guests
Jayda
Your "Sex Positive Asian Auntie" — educator and advocate for AAPI representation in conversations about sex, intimacy, and relationships.
Instagram
Adam Maurer
Sex-positive relationship therapist (and self-described "straight-friendly") specializing in communication, conflict, and intimacy at Moontower Counseling.
Instagram
Featured Products
REVOL Undies — Period underwear designed for protection, empowerment, and inclusive fit in every size. Use code AFM15 for 15% off at revolcares.com.
Honey Play Box — Jubilee — Clitoral orgasm-inducing vibrator. Use code TABU for 25% off at honeyplaybox.com.
🎧 Listen to the full episode :
