When is it time to consider couples therapy?

Updated on February 24, 2026 by Mia Davis

Couples Counseling, Navigating Conflict, and Sex Therapy

Is it ever too early to suggest therapy...or too late? I am joined by sex therapist Kaycee Polite and relationship coach Shula Melamed to demystify couples counseling from the very first session. Whether you're in a thriving relationship that could use a tune-up, navigating a rough patch, or wondering how to reignite desire after years together, this episode offers a compassionate, shame-free look at what actually seeking help looks like, and why more couples should do it sooner.

Today's Questions

What is the difference between therapy and coaching?
What is sex therapy and who is it for?
Is it ever too early or too late to seek couples counseling?
What can couples expect from therapy or coaching? What does a typical session look like?
What can you do if one partner wants therapy and the other doesn't?
Should you also seek individual therapy if you're in couples counseling?
Where does defensiveness come from, and what can you do when you notice it?
Are we responsible for our partner's emotions?
When is it time to call it quits vs. continue working on the relationship?
What can couples do when there are dips in desire and mismatched libidos?
How do you build sexual intimacy and get creative in your sex life over time?
What if your partner is resistant to or intimidated by trying new things?