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Updated on February 24, 2026 by Mia Davis

Attachment Styles and How the Past Shapes Your Relationships

We love to talk about attachment styles, but do we actually understand them? 🤔 I am joined by therapists Dr. Betsy Chung and Nicole Walker to go all the way back to where our relationship patterns begin: childhood. We explore why certain attachment styles attract each other, how to navigate the anxious-avoidant trap, and how to release the patterns that no longer serve you. As you listen, you're gonna wanna give your inner child a big hug (as you should! 🥰).

Today's Questions

What are the different attachment styles and how are they formed?
How early do your experiences begin to shape your identity and future relationships?
Do people unaccustomed to secure attachment find themselves bored by a secure partner?
Is it common to have a different attachment style with friends vs. romantic partners?
Are women attracted to men like their fathers, and men to women like their mothers? Does the same hold true in same-sex partnerships?
Do certain attachment styles tend to attract each other? Are some less compatible?
How do you navigate the anxious-avoidant dynamic?
How much weight should you give someone's attachment style? Is it self-fulfilling?
How do you trust yourself while also releasing patterns that aren't serving you?